Why Teens Resist Counseling and Why That’s Normal
If your teen has been struggling emotionally, suggesting therapy might feel like stepping into a minefield. Many teens resist the idea at first. That’s not unusual.
They may fear being judged, worry something is “wrong” with them, or simply feel uncomfortable opening up to someone new. The key is understanding where they’re coming from—and meeting them with empathy.
Step-by-Step Tips for Starting the Conversation
- Choose the Right Moment:
Timing matters. Look for a calm, low-stress moment when your teen is more likely to feel open and safe—like after a walk, in the car, or during a relaxed evening. - Keep It Conversational, Not Confrontational:
Avoid making therapy sound like punishment. Say things like:- “I’ve noticed you seem really overwhelmed lately.”
- “I’m here to help, but I also know talking to someone else can sometimes make a big difference.”
- Normalize Mental Health Support:
Share your own experiences or stories about people who’ve benefited from counseling. You might say:- “A lot of people talk to counselors when life feels heavy.”
- “It’s like having a personal coach for your mind and emotions.”
- Offer Options and Involve Them in the Process:
Let them have a say:- “Would you rather talk to someone in person or online?”
- “Do you want to look at therapist profiles together and pick someone?”
- Reassure Them About Privacy:
Teens are often worried their personal thoughts will be shared. Let them know that therapy is confidential and that you’ll respect their space unless safety becomes a concern.
What NOT to Say
Even with the best intentions, some phrases can backfire:
- “You need help.” (Can feel like a judgment)
- “You have to go or else.” (Creates fear and control dynamics)
- “Just get over it.” (Invalidates emotions)
Stick with language that affirms their feelings and positions therapy as a supportive resource.
What If They Say No?
If your teen resists, don’t panic. Keep the door open.
You might say, “That’s okay—just know it’s an option. When you’re ready, we’ll find the right person together.”
Sometimes, offering to go together for a consultation eases tension. Or, suggesting a short trial can reduce pressure.
Bright Horizons Makes It Easier to Begin
We know how delicate these moments can be. That’s why Bright Horizons Counseling Services offers both teletherapy and in-person sessions for teens. Your child can start where they feel safest—and shift as comfort grows.
Our therapists specialize in working with teens and young adults, helping them feel heard, respected, and empowered.
If you’re ready to help your teen take that first step, learn more about our Teen Counseling, start the process of scheduling a session, or call us at (540) 602-7615.
